I agree. I stand by the belief that people are people, and I really don't have a right to judge them on something as stupid as sexual orientation. Sadly, this is more and more becoming a radical belief.

I'm a bit nervous around gay guys. Not afraid and I don't hate them. I don't want to sound like an asshole, but I'm not going to lie. I really wouldn't like to hang out with them on a regular basis. My attitude is: If you're gay, that's okay...just don't be gay around me. I'm tolerant, I just don't like it...

~Zoo

NJ Forever~ I'm glad that someone else see what I'm trying to say. I want to stop prejudice, but I can't do it alone.

Zoo~ You don't sound very tolerant to me. Tolerence is about accepting people for who they are, regardless of sexuality or race or gender or whatever. I can say at least your honest. How can you "be gay" around someone? How do you act straight or act gay? People are people, they have a right to be themselves without people stereotyping them so that they can feel better about themselves.

Everybody wants to fuck me no matter what their sexual orientation, they might just not know it yet, I'm just that sexy!

Seriously though it doesn't bother me. It is always nice to know someone finds you attractive, I just turn them down politely...okay only ONE gay guy cracked onto me, but I did turn him down politely.

Everybody wants to fuck me no matter what their sexual orientation, they might just not know it yet, I'm just that sexy!

Oh my. Humbleness also a great quality i see.

...okay only ONE gay guy cracked onto me, but I did turn him down politely

I'm proud.

To me, tolerance is also a prejudiced word. Tolerance is the noun form of the verb "To tolerate" which means to put up with, to deal with. You tolerate them. I think Shaun tolerates gay people. He doesn't like it much, but he "puts up with it to an extent".

To me... I don't tolerate gay people. I accept them. Kyle hasn't become less of a friend because he's come out of the closet. He's just a gay friend now. I may not like what he does, because of what I believe, but it's really none of my business, and I think what happens in somone's bedroom should stay there. I don't need to know, and I don't care. Does the Bible not say, "Hate the sin, love the sinner?" It works out something like that. I may not like the fact that you're gay, but I still accept you and I still support you as a friend and a human being.

I don't know if that helps or not. It's complicated for me to explain how I feel.

Peace,

Beebes

You don't sound very tolerant to me.

Tolerance-n

1. The state of being tolerant
2. Freedom from prejudice
3. The act of enduring
4. A small permissible aloowance from the specific weight, dimensions, etc.

Tolerant-adj
1. Disposed to tolerate beliefs
2. Indulgent; liberal

Tolerate-v
1. To allow to be without opposition
2. To concede, as the right to opinions or participation
3. To bear, sustain

So you see that you don't have to like or accept something to be tolerant, just as long as you let it be. I don't actively persecute homosexuals...and I'm not exactly their best friend. It's not like I think of them as nonpeople...just that I don't agree with their actions and I won't hang around people I don't like. Like members of the KKK or Neo Nazis....some people don't like them and don't hang out with them. Now I'm not comparing those groups to homosexuals in any way, let's make that clear. I just used that as an example.

~Zoo

A human by any other label {gay, straight, bisexual, transgender} is just that. human, deserving of our kindness and respect.

A human by any other label {gay, straight, bisexual, transgender} is just that. human, deserving of our kindness and respect.

I couldn't say it better.

Peace,

Beebes

Two possible reasons I could see why a heterosexual male could be nervous around a homosexual male, in no particular ranking:

1. The straight dude really does think gay men are attracted to all men.
2. The heterosexual man is nervous that if a homosexual man mistakes him as one of their own, women might also make the same mistake.

For the record, I've actually heard a trio of gay men looking at straight men (some were hand in hand with a female significant other) and rating them and talking, very loudly and openly, about what they would like to do with them. My verbal reprimand to them would probably be considered a "hate crime" if the PC Commissars had their way.

This is a good article.. and being gay i can tell you that when I tell straight men that I am gay they usually ask me if I was trying to crack onto them and when I say no, they get upset thinking that there is something wrong with them.. like not even a gay guy would want them!

Gay Guys really dont bother me....They go about there normal day just like everyone else...So what if they are in a relation with another guy....Straight guys are in relations with girls....So whats the big diffrence...it is like making a decisoin with two types of icecream....Well, I guess some people are just weird....

Ns38

Two possible reasons I could see why a heterosexual male could be nervous around a homosexual male, in no particular ranking: 1. The straight dude really does think gay men are attracted to all men. 2. The heterosexual man is nervous that if a homosexual man mistakes him as one of their own, women might also make the same mistake.

And of course
3) He has latent homosexual tendancies that he isn't willing to either acknowledge or explore

If anything I've found in the past a definate advantage to having gay male friends. If you get invited to a gay guy's party they often have lots of gay males friends and straight females friends with only a few straight males friends. Hence your chance of picking up at a gay persons party is greatly increased. I'm 2 for 2, not that I got that far with them, but I definately received far more interest than usual.

Hey this reminds me of my very un-PC gay guy joke. What's the number one pickup line at a gay bar? May I push your stool in - ha funny and gross. Sorry to lower everyone to my level but I couldn't resist.

Perhaps I should say what I told Sarah. I'm sure that some of you remember my Gay What!? article. Just to clear things up, I'm a jerk and I did it simply for the points. I'm sure you could figure that one out by now, though. Anyways...

I will admit that I used to be afraid of homosexuality. It's not the idea of getting "rammed" up the butt hole by one or however you'd like to put it. It's because as a younger person I was taught in my church that some of them are bad. Of course, I understand now that someone from every stereotype is bad, but that's not how I was taught in Sunday school. I was taught that gay's are all satan worshipers and that you shouldn't associate with them because they might try to convert you. You know how easily a child can be molded to believe whatever you hammer into their heads, so that's what I believed. Because I was scared, I typically reacted with anger. It's proven human nature to be scared of or dislike something that you don't understand and I am/was proof of that.

My parents told me that homosexuality was brought upon by the devil and that many of those kinds of people practiced witchcraft, which is another thing I don't particularly know a lot about.

Now that I've met Sarah I have changed a lot. I was told by different people that she was a lesbian and/or bisexual, so I didn't really want to be around her at first. At Band Camp, though, I saw her crying and so I wanted to see why. When I found out we started talking and became pretty good friends. Were just about always together and when she told me that she was what I was told it didn't bother me as much as I expected because I knew she was a good person and that I was safe.

I now don't fear homosexuality quite like I used to, though I'll admit to some insecurities around groups of them still. I thank Sarah for opening my eyes and mind to this sort of thing and I hope that these other straight guys that she spoke of can learn to do the same thing.

Sorry I took over there but I'll give it back now. I love you Sarah.

Capt. over and out!