Published on August 5, 2005 By NotSoSmellySarah In Misc
Okay, I haven't ranted in a long time (well maybe not that long but still) RIght now I have mono which has to be the most annoying, pain in the butt virius ever. Which clearly God created as a curse. Basically I'm not really allowed to do anything but lie around all day drinking disgusting orange juice, watching old episodes of Dawson's Creek, and feeling sorry for myself. Even though I feel relatively okay. Its really starting to make me bitter.
And while I've been lying around all day I've realized that I have no idea what I believe in anymore or what I want out of life. Isn't that just lovely.. I can't decide what's best for me and what's best for Sarandon.. I do not like not being in control of what happens to me, and it seems that thats exactly whats happening. I have dreams of being an actor, but I have dreams of being a wife. I'm not sure if I can have both. I want both so badly that it hurts and i'm willing to do whatever it takes to have both, because they are so meaningful to me. ..but Kentucky????? Its not quite where I envisioned myself. If I go to Chicago or New York I may never forgive myself for potentially destroying our relationship, if I go somewhere local I may never forgive myself for not getting what i needed as an actor and as a person desiring a different culture. So I have concluded in my semi dellusional feverish state that I, NotSoSmellySarah, may never ever be really truly happy. Isn't it wonderful. Life isn't fair.
Well now i'm off to share my lovely germs at the library.

Comments
on Aug 05, 2005
First off, I've had mono before, and it sucks. Get better.

Secondly, That's a tough one. Balancing your personal aspiratrions against your professional ones is always a sticky subject. You don't want to sabotage your relationship, but on the other hand you don't want to deny yourself a dream.

My advice is to spend some time weighing the pros and cons. Take your time, discuss it with your significant other. Find out where they stand.

And remember that all advice should be listened to, but taken with a grain of salt. Especially mine

I lost someone recently because of my constant obsession with work, and all the travel that went with it. So i know how not to pull it off. Must be the hindsight talking now.
on Aug 05, 2005
My advice is to spend some time weighing the pros and cons. Take your time, discuss it with your significant other. Find out where they stand.


Pretty good advice, if you ask me.

You've got quite a decision to make....and maybe things will change before you have to make it. If they don't however...you and Brandon will have a hard decision to make....and talking it over is probably the only thing I can recommend. I don't envy the choices you have to make. I pray that whatever happen will work out well for you.

And don't worry, you'll be happy....it may be awhile before it fully sets in, but don't lose hope.

~Zoo
on Aug 05, 2005
Thatoneguy and Zoo said it all. Some good advice guys! And let me add for you to just listen to your heart and trust your instincts.


I do hope you feel better soon!
on Aug 05, 2005
A few things...

~I had mono my senior year of high school...you have my total sympathy!! Reading your post really brought some unpleasant memories back!! I hope your throat is not too sore!!

~I'm currently working on my masters degree in piano performance and pedagogy, and my bachelors degree is in piano performance. Professional musicians tend to be lumped together with actors and the like....and no, it is not typical to have such a career and a family too. However, it is possible. If you truly want both as much as you say you do, you can work around it. However, in my personal opinion, you'll have to realize that each area will suffer a little now and then. Again, I sympathize...I've been dealing with professors for 6 years now, rolling their eyes at me and patting me on the head when I talk about getting married and having babies. They just don't get it. I'm currently battling with my piano professor because he thinks I'm planning my wedding too closely to my final recital.

It's a compromise between both worlds, and you have to be willing to accept that. Most importantly, you have to have the right man that loves you and understands you enough to deal with it. (it also helps if the man is a little more on the independant side)

I hope this helps some! Feel better!!